Men In Crisis
There are men who navigate life without too many ups and downs - well at least I hear rumours about them and might even know one or two... But for most of us we enjoy the good times without raising our hopes for fear that some form of crisis may be lurking around the corner. I know I lived that life for a very long time.
After all, I was taught that adolesence is a crisis, as is mid-life and then there is the crisis of aging and even retirement. You only need to count on your fingers to realise there's not a great many years inbetween! At some point in our lives we will be confronted with a financial crisis, relationship crisis, family crisis, the death and loss of close friends and family members, an employment crisis, health crisis and the list goes on.
Sometimes a crisis may be less than evident. For some of us life's circumstances will quietly grow bigger than we feel we can handle. We suddenly find ourselves out of our depth, flailing around wondering which way to swim to shore.
Whether we reach crisis point may depend on our ability to talk about our difficulties and to stop and ask for help. But many of life's crises take us by surprise. You may have felt like your life is crumbling in your hands, slipping through your fingers like sand. You may have plummeted into depression, withdrawn with anxiety or burst into fits of rage as you've attempted to cope with these instrusions on your life.
There are a myriad of life traps waiting to ensare us when life becomes unlivable or too hard. Addiction can rear it's head in it's many forms as an inviting way of coping. Tightening our grip on life can be a reflex response and we suddenly find ourselves trying to control everything and everyone around us. Or on the opposite hand, giving up and sliding into despair.
Whatever your situation, whatever your crisis, you need to know there is always a way through. Crises often occur at crucial times of opportunity as life seeks to initiate us into deeper levels of masculine maturity. The things that are torn from us so painfully can actually be the very issues that are preventing us from fulfilling our potential. Our inheritied dysfunction often contributes to painful times in our lives, and crisis points can be an opportunity to awaken to the unresolved issues that haunt us and hold us in immaturity.
None of this is comforting to hear in the midst of a genuine crisis. We want you to know that there are men and services who relate to the expeience of empty desperation, of gut wrenching pain, of hoplessness and despair and with the right support have found their way through. Sometimes, just knowing there are people who can relate to your situation and are there for you, makes all the difference as you battle through the darker moments of your life.
If you are in crisis now and would like immediate help, we have compiled a list of resources below that we strongly encourage you to explore. Support is available around the clock available around the clock. At AMA we firmly believe that prevention is better than cure. We believe that by developing our maturity, we prepare ourselves for life's difficult times and can navigate through them more effectively. Too often, men lurch from crisis to crisis or problem to problem, only seeking help when things are hard. There is much to be said for engaging with support between the tough times, rather than just during them. Our articles, men's groups and mentoring program exist to do just that.
Most of all, we want you to know that you are not alone. Believe it or not, you are a remarkable human being who is deeply capable of incredible things, no matter what may be confronting you. Take some time to browse our site and feel free to contact us if you need to reach out for support. We'd be more than happy to speak with you.
With empathy and understanding,
Tim and Paul